I'd rather my man hit me
- Billie Holiday,"Ain't Nobody's Business" 1922
About My Book:
Recipient 1998 Small Press Book Award
|What kind of woman would stay in a relationship with someone
who abused her? Always the subtext of the question is, there must be something wrong with
her. As Vera Andersons portraits so eloquently document, the harsh answer to that
question is: You. Me. Our daughters. Our mothers. Our grandmothers. The faces of these
women are poignant reminders that the questions we ask are so often the wrong ones.
-Robin Abcarian, LOS ANGELES TIMES
Vera Andersons book
is a rare achievement providing artistic as well as cultural impact and significance...
(An) amazing book which goes a long way to removing stereotypes about abused women.
|#2 HEALTHY BESTSELLERS LIST LOS ANGELES TIMES, November 97
The power of this remarkable book lies in its ability to deliver an honest
and immediate portrayal of domestic violence through personal accounts that cross all
Domestic violence is an ugly tale that, sadly, we know all too well, so do we
really need to hear it again? Well, maybe one more time. In this haunting photo-
documentary, Vera Anderson introduces you to women who have lived the nightmare.
Ever since O.J. Simpsons trial, domestic violence has had a face: that of Nicole Brown Simpson, swollen and pummeled. Just as haunting are Vera Andersons portraits, not for their ghastly bruises but rather for their seeming normality.
- Mara Mornell, NEW YORK POST
photos are haunting and hopeful, compelling in their message that violence can hit any
family, any culture or ethnicity; any woman, well off or poor. In their own words, thirty
four women tell of their survival... their stories are a beacon for us all, a wake up
call, reminding us that violence will only end when all of us participate in ending it.
Excerpts from the Book